May 01, 2007

The Good Mother



Shireen sat on the battered couch in the Szold's lobby and glanced at herself in the mirror. She liked what she saw. She'd lost 30 pounds and was slender in tight stretch jeans and a clinging T-shirt. Her blonde, corkscrew curls tumbled in planned disarray around her face. At first glance, she seemed to be in her early thirties, but on closer inspection, one noticed the frown lines and crow's feet around her eyes. Her skin was covered with pancake, the blonde hair a homemade bottle-job and under the tight jeans, her thighs were dimpled. She looked cheap, but she didn't mind cheap if cheap meant sexy.

She sat hand in hand with Maurice, her new boyfriend, ten years her junior, a swarthy Greek with a long ponytail. Maurice's large, coarse-skinned face was scarred from acne, and his nose was a mass of blackheads. He smoked cigarette after cigarette, every now and then passing one to Shireen, who inhaled in deep gulps. Restlessly, his hand caressed the Szold dog, and she giggled and said, "Stop kissing him, doll, Yggh, he's full of fleas." She turned to me, "I wish you'd get rid of this fleabag!".

Shireen's life had changed since she'd ditched Abe Zeidner, her partner for 20 years. Now, she didn't like to be reminded of the life they'd once shared. She despised her old photographs showing her how middle-aged and frumpy she'd been, a typical South African 'mouse-wife', serving her husband, chauffeuring the kids, meeting the girls for coffee and chatting about her endless problems with the maid.

Shireen's father, Sam Auerbach, had survived the Nazi concentration camps and emerged a bitter and sour man. He had lost all faith in human nature and believed the world was doomed. After the war, he hadn't wanted children, and had only reluctantly accepted Shireen when his wife presented the pregnancy as a fait accompli. Now Sam spent his time collecting articles and writing letters to newspapers to advance his theory about the growing menace of worldwide over-population.

When Shireen and Abe had not one, but two children – he'd been furious. Resigned to accepting the older boy, he all but ignored Terry, referring to the child as 'the extra mouth to feed' He never spoke to the child; never held him on his knee, never patted his head or bought him the smallest gift.

Feeling poorly at work one morning, Shireen returned home to find her husband bouncing around in their bed, with his secretary. She was shocked and bewildered, in no small part because she couldn't imagine anyone possibly wanting to have an affair with Abe. He was fat and unkempt, and it had been years since Shireen had found him in any way attractive.

With his secret out, Abe lost no time filing for divorce; marrying the secretary and starting a new family. Now he was having the time of his life!

Although shaken to her core, slowly and painfully, Shireen pulled herself together. After a chaotic first few months, she had placed her older son in a group home and young Terry, in Szold. Exhilarated with the mission of finding herself, she didn't want responsibilities. She was crazy about Maurice: his smooth brown body and the way he kept it in shape by exercising strenuously each day. With her svelte new figure, she joined him – pushing the limits of her endurance in jogs along the beach, mountain hikes and aerobic workouts. She had re-discovered sex; and measured time by the ache between her legs until their next lovemaking. 

"When he looks at me that way – know what I mean? I just shiver," she giggled. "It's nothing like sex with Abe: the occasional wham when he could get it up, and as soon as he was finished, he'd fall down dead." With Maurice, she discovered ECSTASY and ORGASMS; and when she read erotic stories in her women's magazines, she trembled with desire. She saw herself as the heroine of a passionate romance.

The remodeled Shireen had no time for children or family. Feeling guilty, she tried to persuade her father to take Terry in for a couple of months. "Give me a break, Daddy!" she entreated: "I need to get my life together!" But Sam Auerbach wasn't having it. The 'extra mouth to feed' was not his problem. In desperation, Shireen pleaded with the local child welfare society to take Terry into care. At first, she tried to arrange for an informal placemen,t but when investigations revealed that Terry was neglected, he was placed in Szold under court orders.

Now Shireen breezed in and out of Szold as though Terry was some interruption in her exhausting program of self-improvement. Unashamedly egocentric, she couldn't focus her attention on her son for more than a moment at a time. "Howzit?" she would exclaim, ruffling the hair on his little head as she searched for a mirror to reassure herself that her face was not wrinkling from an instant of neglect.

Today, she and Maurice had brought Terry a kite. "Isn't it gorgeous? Isn't Uncle Maurrie thoughtful to bring you presents?" She turned to her companion, "Tell Terry where we've been, Maurrie." She laughed, "Last night we picnicked on the beach – under the stars and even slept there! And next week, we're going on a boat to Durbs."

Terry stared at the kite. "Can I come with you?" he asked.

His mother winked at Maurice, "No, sorry, old sport, another time. This trip's just for grownups." She blew Terry a kiss.

After she and Maurice left, Terry lay down on the couch, sucked his fingers and stared into space; his head on Fonzi's chest.  Next to him, slumped Fonzi. I came over and sat opposite Terry. It saddened me to see him so depressed. "So, what's new with your mommy, Terry?" I asked gently. "Did you have a nice visit?"

Terry was trying to cuddle into the cradle between the dog's outstretched paws and to stroke the dog's fur with his face. I marveled at how gently Fonzi managed to comfort Terry, while I struggled to find words. To Terry, Fonzi meant warmth and unconditional love. She was his secure center, there to see him off in the morning when he went to school and to welcome him home when he returned. Endlessly patient and non-judgmental, she listened silently to his sadness, his secret pain, his dreams, and his joys. He could ruffle her, play with her, climb on her, and snuggle into her, comforted by her doggy smell, shedding hairs, fleas, and all!

Fonzi was a good mother; the best mother of all!

The Good Mother is excerpted from A Blanket of Many Colors by Sharon Bacher, copyright 2025

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